Sara Cotton
From Indistinct Mumblings - The Lost and Found
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Quick Bio
Birthday: November 1st, 1983
Birth Sign: Scorpio
Political Views: Eccentric, to say the least (Unknown until she fills it in)
Religion: Goddess-Fearing Pagan
Acquainted: Sun Valley H.S., 2002-ish
Relationship: Wife/Spouse
What a Nice Ass
Sara and James met, as stated above, at Sun Valley High School. It is an alternative school. Take that to mean what you will. Whilst sitting on the curb, directly after enjoying a freshly-bought Bean and Cheese Burrito from the roach coach, James happened to look up and view a picturesque ass, in form fitting jeans, saunter it's way across the school parking lot. Being the ass-man that he is: James immediately got up and pursued.
When he arrived to meet the owner of the said premium derriere, he moved in to speak with her. As he brought his attention up the whole of her body, from her cute toes to her soft belly to her :cough: supple :cough: breasts and then to her eyes, he began to speak..... and realized that he had not a clue as to what should be said.
As his eyes were carving their way up her body, his mind did manage to take in a few details. The shirt was a Rayon-Spandex-Lycra Blend with a Kabuki Theatre Dancer on it; The pants were (very) well-fitted; and she was wearing a Pentacle (or pentagram, for you who must be mathematically correct.....bastards!) While he was grasping for words, and he was hoping it would be before she caught on, he put together a few things to talk about. 1.) Kabuki? No - you'll make an Ass out of yourself: You don't know enough about it. 2.) The blend of her shirt? No...She'll think your Gay, and she's already hanging out with your friends, who know you gave up women after [Soni]. Well...that leaves.. 3.) Religion. But if you talk about anything serious, you'll come off all nutty. Besides, for all you know; she could be one of those twirps that wears it because "it's pretty!". Ok....ask her something simple... Got it!
What came out was, "So, I noticed your pentacle (mathematicians, I will beat you - So help me the Gods!)..... I was wondering how you spell faery?" Now then, that wasn't so bad - was it? I mean, that's decent everyday conversation, right? Wait... I just walked up to her and asked her how she spells... SHIT! DAMNIT! DAMNITDAMNITDAMNIT! Ok, calm. Got to flow with it now.
So she answered, and answered correctly. Which, if you know Sara at all, will make you laugh. She can't spell. One of the most creative and intelligent people in the world; but aside from spell-check on her computer; she couldn't spell to save her life. It was a lucky guess that she spelled it correctly. (YAY ME!)
Living Arrangements
Well, Sara and James lived together for quite some time. They started off at her Mom's place, and moved out to their own apartment shortly thereafter. With no car, they lived in close proximity to local stores so that carting groceries would not be too difficult a task. They enjoyed their first year together without much of an issue. The neighbor came over on their first Yule, and asked if Sara could wrap the presents for him. He alluded to moaning and screaming coming from Sara, until she corrected him and stated that it was James making the noise.
James made quite a few mistakes during this relationship. In his first year, He had lied to Sara about his character, and the provisions he was making. He also decided to tell her this, and then walk out the door without saying anything. It was the first time he made the mistake of breaking her trust; and it would never truly be restored afterwards.
Baby Making and Sanity Breaking
After the first year, their relationship recovered - for the most part. They still continued to enjoy each other's company immensely, and despite their consistent lack of financial stability; They edged out a better living than most of their friends.
Because they were alone together alot, and because of their fondness for each other, Sara did eventually get pregnant. This was due to two major things occuring: 1.) James didn't use a condom. 2.) Being financially unsound, they ran out of money prior to purchasing Birth Control one month. Well, If you have sex...................You get pregnant! DUH!
So, when James found out about the pregnancy, he panicked and sought out refuge in the Military, citing that it would pay for the baby's birth. Brilliant, no? Ok, so maybe not the brightest idea, but an idea none the less. The problem? The military would not pay for a family if you were not legally married. (Sara kept asking when the ceremony was going to happen, and James - being the commitment-phobe he is - continually put it off). So what did they do? James brow-beat Sara into a shanty ceremony so that he could depart for basic with no qualms about money.
And with that, He joined the Military.
The Military
For James, the Military was physically exhausting. For Sara, it was a completely different kind of exhausting. She was pregnant, tired, and lonely. She spent most of her pregnant time in Arizona, and alot of that either alone, with her Mother or Chanel. She had correspondence with James via mail, but that took 1-3 weeks to get to Oklahoma; and another 1-3 weeks to get a response.
During the Holiday (Christmas) Break from training, Sara moved out to Oklahoma with all her belongings. Bringing the cat, Dumas, and all their personal items, Sara endured the trip to Oklahoma while 8 months pregnant. She had the baby on February 7th, 2008. His name was Luciene. Up until that time, and for a good deal of time afterwards, Sara was alone there.
She spent her pregnant time in checking out the community when she was feeling up to it. With no one to help her after Luciene was born, Sara became inescapably trapped in the apartment. Luciene developed extreme colic, crying sometimes for up to 22 hours before finally going to sleep: only to wake up and begin crying again in 1-3 hours. James had an operation for a hernia; then went back to wrok; seeing Sara less and less. The few hours he was at home, he slept - paying no attention to his beloved bride.
Too much stress, too little sleep, a complete lack of comfort, and the non-existence of a support group eventually took it's toll. Out of desperation, Sara called James at work and stated he needed to come home. Being, once again, completely oblivious to his spouse's needs, James blew her off for the first part of the conversation. Finally Sara said something that grabbed James' attention. He immediately told his First Sergeant what was happening, and was excused to go home for the day.
Assistance
Sara and James both began to go to therapy. Sara was diagnosed with the temporary condition of Post-Partum depression. It is brought on by excessive stress, sleep-cycle disturbances, a lack of thyroid-produced hormones, and a few other things; and can happen to ANYONE that's been pregnant. James was treated for a menagerie of things. So, not only did Sara have to deal with her issues; but also had to deal with a withdrawn, unsupportive husband that was creating more stress with his delusions.
After 6 weeks of therapy, James was discharged from the Military. They moved back home to Arizona, and began to restart their lives....again.
Back in Arizona
Once back in Arizona, Sara's Mom found a friend that assisted James in obtaining a job with Verizon Wireless. They moved out to another apartment, and were doing financially well (for once). After about two and a half years, they moved to a nice house in Queen Creek. Sara's best friend, Chanel & her family, came over. Many good moments were shared. In retrospect, these times should have probably been more celebrated than they were.
On November 21st, 2006, Chanel Anderson was stabbed to death in her own home. I will go as far to say that it was Garret Anderson, but there is no irrefutable proof. It hit Sara hard. Chanel was her best friend, and despite their differences; probably the only person Sara had ever held close to her like a sister. The next year was difficult, to say the least. It was hard for Sara to attend the events she went to previously, as her best friend wasn't there and it only served to remind her of this.
Pregnant Again
Well, it was bound to happen, wasn't it? Sara became with child again, and gave birth to Amaris on March 8th, 2007. For a few more months, she continued to care for the child in home; but eventually decided that her time would be better spent pursuing the interests she had put on hold for the past 3 years.
Sara got on track for schooling at the Arizona School of Massage Therapy. There she studied and learned how to become a Massage Therapist. After nine months of schooling, hard work, and studying anatomy, Sara graduated. James was very proud of her.
During that time, James' psychotic episodes began to grow worse and worse. He would accuse her of things that never happened, and blamed her for all the wrong things that were occuring in the relationship. His paranoia became well pronounced, and he began to exert heavy mental abuse towards her, making degrading and uncouth statements about her health, weight, intelligence, and mothering skills. He would swing in and out of bipolar episodes, one day professing his love and apologizing for all his mistakes; the next day angrily questioning all her motives, and claiming she lied about his apologies.
At first, Sara asked him to get help. Then she took the abuse, and heard it so often that she almost believed it. James left the relationship in a bipolar rage, asking for a divorce and claiming that Sara was nothing but a mistake in his life. Three days later, he begged to come back, crying and saying that he loved her and no one else. This repeated for months.
Eventually, Sara became numb to this. James began to hallucinate other people. One day, he said he was engaged, and that the relationship was completely over. After a period of time, he began to beg again. Sara was too cold to perceive any change at this point. You can only be hurt so many times before you kill off that which is causing you pain.
2010
As of late, Sara has been through a few different employers, and as a result, has greatly reduced the amount of child support she was paying. She has finally paid off her car, and it looks that she is going to be financially sound in the near future.
She has currently agreed to watching the children in a two week rotation, 3 days on one week, 1 day on the following week. This arrangement seems to work the best for everyone involved at this time.